RADCAZ, we aren't "pansies" because we stretch slowly. It's not a pain thing. We're into body modification, which means we can handle pain. Stretching is just one of the mods that shouldn't be painful, and if it is there's probably a problem. I have had probably 20 piercings in my life and I have two tattoos, one of which took four hours and is in one of the most sensitive spots. If stretching was supposed to be painful and stretching your lobes every week wouldn't damage them, I would do that. But it is important to me to have healthy lobes, so I stretch slowly.
I highly recommend looking at this:
http://s260.photobucket.com/albums/ii9/ ... =slideshow
Do you think any of those people started their stretching journey saying "I want disgusting lobes?" No, they listened to people like Nic who say "You'll be fine if you stretch fast, everyone else is just a pansy!" But they weren't fine because they didn't get lucky.
We're not trying to bully you or act holier-than-thou (no pun intended), we just don't want you to ruin your lobes!
