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I'm at 8mm and been here for about a month now. I noticed when I stretched to this size that my ears were looking weird and they hadn't before. I first stretched from 6mm to 7mm, cause I bought the in between size, and then after leaving the 7mm in for about two weeks I stretched up to 8mm (I waited only two weeks cause normally you should just stretch from 6mm to 8mm so I thought I didn't need to wait for as long), but my ears got a little wrinkly and now I'm really fucking paranoid. they aren't red or irritated, and I massage them twice a day with coconut oil, but when I do that they almost as much as close up.

Sounds like scar tissue buildup. It wouldn't hurt to downsize to 7mm, or 6mm if you were willing, for several months before stretching again. Keep up the massages, but massages and downsizing has a better chance of reducing scar tissue before it becomes permanent than massages alone.